With baby bound to say "Hello, world" anytime soon, I randomly thought about my mom. Not that I couldn't just announce to her that I'm pregnant, I couldn't introduce her grandchild to her.
Many would say, "why don't you let your mom be the confinement lady?" or "Why don't you let your mom be the babysitter?". Whether it's my mom or mother in law, I don't want to count on them even if they're willing to. They have worked hard to brought us up. It's time for them to rest. They can play with the grandchild all they want. Once a while, they can help to watch over the baby but not as a full time babysitter. For this, I'm glad my husband agree with the idea.
I guess I've just watched too many drama where by when the daughter in law is pregnant, she's treated as the queen at home. Lucky for me, this doesn't happen at home, or else, I'd rather move out soon. Mother in law still allows me to do certain chores to the fact that I sometimes forgotten that I am pregnant. Glad that I am still able to help out around the house, I pity seeing my mother in law having to do all the chores by herself. She could have asked for help from her children. I would help if I'm allowed to. That's how I've been brought up.
My mom usually asks us for help. Wash the toilet, help with cooking, wash clothes, sweep, mop, wipe this and that, clean our own rooms. I guess that's how she has trained us to be independent and dependent for their family later on. With the same mentality, I'll be gladly pass on this mentality. It's not a child abuse in my opinion. It's just training the kids to be independent and values the hard work that our parents had worked for us.
Nevertheless, I understand where my mother in law is coming from. She didn't want to trouble her children with the chores. But I really hope she would distribute the chores load to us so that she could get the rest she deserved at this age of hers. She really did get thinner as mentioned by my husband's aunt.
